Crises require you to change your regular pattern of behavior. Families are affected by a crisis when circumstances upset normal functioning and need a different way to deal with the stressor.
Stress is an adverse reaction to substantial or unusual demands – physical, interpersonal, and environmental. It is often accompanied by tension, irritability, and depression. It is caused by a variety of events and circumstances, both positives and negatives.
Depression and marital discord often occur as a result of stress. It is not a state but a process. At different times during an event, there may be varying levels of stress. Taking care of parents who are aging or grieving a parent’s death are common sources of stress. It can also be something unexpected, such as a miscarriage or teen suicide.
Hurricanes, tornadoes, downsizing, and military deployment are examples of external crises. Alcoholism, infidelity, Alzheimer’s disease, and even a debilitating illness can be external problems. An interpersonal crisis can result from an affair between a spouse or a structural crisis involving in-laws.
When a family undergoes a major change, it is known as a family crisis. This is a turning point: either thing will improve, or they will deteriorate. Stress can be caused by everyday pressures piling up.
The following guidelines are offered by researchers for families looking for ways to manage family crises:
The first step to solving the family crisis is to accept the situation. By denying the reality of the crisis, you give more room for confusion and anger in the family. However, by accepting the situation, you choose to let go of the differences and resolve.
It is important to note that crying and shedding tears is not a sign of weakness but a display of strength. If you need to cry, please do. But be more intentional about solving the situation than remaining in that sadness. Crucial ways to solving family crises include:
Be careful not to blame one another.
Family members or external influences may become the target of blame in poorly functioning families. Those with healthy families view the crisis as a problem affecting the entire family. Correcting or changing the problem requires their combined efforts.
Patience is key.
A healthy family recognizes the need for peacemaking, patience, and consideration.
Manage your stress well.
Take good care of your health and schedule some relaxing time.